When I bought this domain name 5 years ago, I had every intention of starting a blog. That blog was going to be my addition to the self-help market. It is a multi-billion dollar a year industry and as one of it’s most avid consumers, I wanted to be a part of it.
The thing is, that I keep finding reasons not to write about how to engineer wholeness. I have ideas, I have thoughts, I think that it could work. I also have depression, anxiety, and a deeply rooted need to be liked. I don’t like doing things I can’t do well. I certainly don’t have any idea how some one else can make a change.
So, yesterday, I made a choice. I am giving up the ease of Social Media for more real connection. You see, I spend hours a day scrolling through social media looking for that spark of connection. That moment where someone I hardly ever see in real life, says something to which I can connect, and then I feel like I have a friend. Someone who cares. The reality is a far cry from that, I have some friends, I have people that I care for deeply (and I believe they care for me), but I hardly ever really make time to spend with them because I make excuses and I know what’s going on…I see them on FaceBook.
I am done with the excuses. I am shy, I am depressed, I am lonely, and I need to do something about it.
So, instead of writing about how others can engineer wholeness, I am going to write about my journey to wholeness. How I am going to work toward making the time for the life that I want/need.
STEP 1: Accepting that it isn’t going to be easy.
Giving up social media is hard for me. I hardly ever get likes or comments, so I “know” that most of the 700 people I am “friends” with are acquaintances at best, but when I am scrolling through posts I get to feel like I am part of their lives. Plus I didn’t have to do any of the hard work of getting to know them.
Now, it is time for the hard work…the facing the parts of me that feel broken, to engineer wholeness for me.
Welcome to my journey.
Engineering Wholeness 
Sending virtual hugs. Wish I could join you for a cup of tea. I will follow you here. No pressure or guilt if you don’t write for ages. I’ve put that on myself too. Just know that you have a listener when you feel like talking. 🍀
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Looking forward to the reads, friend. In a time when we have all the friends in the world at our fingertips it’s amazing how isolating it has proven to be.
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It certainly can be. I hope you and the family are doing well!
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Hey there! I’m here for the journey. I think this is a great idea. AND I look forward to getting together with you soon.
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I am here. I left my job in May (well, volunteered to be laid off), and I’m on my own journey of self-discovery, self-repair, and self-reinvention. I’m glad to once again find you as a fellow traveler, so many years after you gave me that ride to the airport!
Perhaps we’ll help each other find the wayposts.
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I’m here. In May, I left my job (volunteered to be laid off). Now I’m on my own journey of self-discovery, self-repair, self-reinvention. I’m launching my own new adventure. It’s inspiring to join you, fellow travelers again, so many years after you gave me that ride to the airport.
Maybe we can find the wayposts together. Be well.
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